What if you made a date with your mate for a little Wabi Sabi sex? Let me explain. Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that honors all things old, weathered, worn, imperfect and impermanent by finding the beauty and perfections in the imperfections.
Applying Wabi Sabi to your sex life means it’s OK that you’re too tired, too stressed or don’t have time, you just decide to do it anyway, even if nobody really wants to. Just because you are not in the mood or feeling estranged or disconnected from your partner, doesn’t mean you can’t make the effort to reconnect and reignite the energizing, and life-giving forces of sex.
Be creative. Find a new time, a new place, a new way to initiate a connection. Even if you feel silly, awkward, or strange, just go for it. Remember this is Wabi Sabi sex. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
And, however, the lovemaking turns out, whether it’s dull and routine or toe-curling ecstasy, choose to find the beauty and perfection in it. Know that it’s going to be great because you’ve made the effort to give yourself and your partner some attention, affection and hopefully pleasure.
When we experience pleasure, we are relaxed and in the flow and it’s a zillion times easier to access our positive emotions. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and receiving love at every level.
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