How to reignite the passion by using a proven ancient technique that has helped countless couples break out from their humdrum routine.
By Arielle Ford
Would you be surprised to discover that your grandparents had sex more often than you do? Chances are it’s true.
For many couples, life just seems to get in the way of finding time for sex or even simple pleasures. We’re a nation of busy, over-committed, stressed-out, sleep-deprived and just plain tired folks.
There is a tremendous amount of new research out that proves the importance of having pleasure in our lives. Not only does pleasure reduce stress, it also improves our health, overall well-being and longevity. This probably isn’t surprising and when was the last time you consciously added pleasure to your life?
What if you made a date with your mate for a little Wabi Sabi sex? Let me explain. Wabi Sabi is an ancient Japanese art form that honors all things old, weathered, worn, imperfect and impermanent by finding the beauty and perfections in the imperfections.
Applying Wabi Sabi to your sex life means it’s OK that you’re too tired, too stressed or don’t have time, you just decide to do it anyway, even if nobody really wants to. Just because you are not in the mood or feeling estranged or disconnected from your partner, doesn’t mean you can’t make the effort to reconnect and re-ignite the energizing, and life-giving forces of sex.
Be creative. Find a new time, a new place, a new way to initiate a connection. Even if you feel silly, awkward, or strange, just go for it. Remember this is Wabi Sabi sex. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
And, however the lovemaking turns out, whether it’s dull and routine or toe-curling ecstasy, choose to find the beauty and perfection in it. Know that it’s going to be great because you’ve made the effort to give yourself and your partner some attention, affection and hopefully pleasure.
When we experience pleasure, we are relaxed and in the flow and it’s a zillion times easier to access our positive emotions. By taking the time to add pleasure to your life you will be calmer, happier, and more receptive to enjoying and receiving love at every level. ■
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